Do you ever feel yourself being sucked into caring for someone’s else’s needs when it is not your responsibility?
Do you find yourself attempting to use people, activities or substances to fill your needs and it is never, ever enough?
The essential needs of every human being are like Survival Bricks which create a foundation upon which our lives are built: Safety, Security, Stability, Consistency, and a Sense of Control Over My Environment.
Issues addressed:
- There is a major impact on the human psyche when these needs are not met, and/or are violated, and leave “holes” and “cracks” in our foundation.
- When you endeavor to fill these “holes” and “cracks” with substances, activities and especially with relationships – it will never, ever be enough.
- The key to change and health is the understanding that only you and your Higher Power can fill those “holes” and “cracks”as you become the healthy parent for that wounded
- Almost every conflict in marriages, families, relationships, etc. begins with a violation of one of the basic needs (Safety, Security, Stability, Consistency, and a Sense of Control Over My Environment); or, when you attempt to have another “fill your holes” and become your surrogate parent.
- To have healthy adult relationships, it is important for you to take responsibility for repairing your own foundation upon which stable relationships then can be built and maintained.
(This instrument is extended in the videos: Building a Healthy Life and Building Healthy Relationships.)
