Is discerning an unhealthy system difficult for you?

Is an unhealthy system the norm for your family of origin or culture?

We live in a multitude of systems: family, ethnic, cultural, educational, business, governmental, religious, etc. and are influenced by them all.  Some of the systems are healthy but many are unhealthy and create great stress in our lives.  It is helpful to understand how to clearly identify the types of systems which impact you daily.

Issues addressed:

• A Healthy Systemhas boundaries which are flexible and adaptable.  People within this system are encouraged to think for themselves, to be responsible, to grow and develop their potential, yet have healthy boundaries for protection and guidance.  It is based upon love and mutual respect and is open to new ideas.
• Two major Unhealthy Systems:
• Unquestioned Obedience to AuthorityThis controlling system has high walls, rigid rules and rejects all outside influences.  The people within have no right to object and are vulnerable to abuse by the authority.
• No Rules – No Boundaries!This system is based upon feeling entitled “…to do what I want to do when I want to do it!”  It leads to addictions and irresponsibility. Without boundaries, children raised in this system lack protection and guidance and suffer from neglect.